Date Added: December 2015
Making decisions is common in our lives. Decisions related to business, ethics or family. Decisions affecting others or ourselves. Making the right decisions is a large burden.
How do we determine which decisions are right vs. wrong? Who decides what is right? What is our moral compass to guide our decisions?
Even though we know which decisions are right, we shy from these because they don’t make us look good. We are criticized, judged, or simply disappoint others because they wanted a decision which wasn’t ethically right.
We grant ourselves a false sense of pride because we alter our decision; however, we know deep down it still isn’t the right decision. We are afraid to show our vulnerability and uphold our values for these decisions.
Having written much about gifts and strengths, and the differences between them; I recently was asked where values fit. As a refresher, gifts are items we are born with and difficult to discern. They can be used for good or bad. When used for good, they are used for others. When used for bad, they are used for our own self interests. Strengths are developed over time and can change based on our gifts. If our gifts are being used for bad, different strengths arise to help counter our gifts.
Values are core beliefs which may change over time; although they are typically embedded in who we are. While gifts are still on top of the hierarchy, values are close behind as these help ensure we use our gifts for good – for others. When we stray from our values, our decision making becomes altered and our gifts begin to be used for ourselves – not good.
While making the right decisions and doing good will not guarantee others will understand our decisions and/or may disagree with them; sticking with our values helps safeguard us in making the right decisions.
Doing what is right is a great burden; yet, we each need to be the vessel and carry this burden. Start today to speak the truth and reach others to help make the right decisions to positively change the world.
David Yeghiaian is committed to positively impacting the lives of others through faith, inspiration and leadership. Reach him at email@example.com.